It is simply foolish to have the idea that everyone will evaluate you correctly, give you equal importance, or that everyone will speak to you respectfully wherever you go.
Many of us have a misconception – that we think that others should give us the same importance as we think ourselves.
This idea often leads to arrogance, unnecessary anger and a sense of importance in our behavior.
Then we act and speak as if there is no one more valuable than us in the world.
But when reality does not match that idea, we break down in sadness, anger and disappointment.

• Remember, a person whobehaves rudely and arrogantly can never truly become loved by others.
• People do not respect him; rather, they are afraid.
• Those who come in contact with him are always in fear of when they will again be a victim of his harsh behavior.
• Not love for such a person, but fear and pity are born.

Suppose you suddenly got angry with someone and behaved harshly.
Maybe he didn’t protest because of your influence. Did that make you grow up?
Not at all. Rather, your value to him decreased.
The person who once respected you and valued your words will gradually move away from you mentally.
He may even think of repaying your insult if he gets the chance.
And if that person was close to you or once helpful to you, then the matter is even more serious.
One wrong behavior of yours can destroy long-standing trust, respect, and relationships.
As a result, you unknowingly create an adversary for yourself.
Therefore, in such a situation, the first thing you need to do is keep your head cool.
Under no circumstances should you suddenly get excited and attack anyone. Remember—
“If you get angry, you lose.”
Because when you get angry, people often lose their sense of purpose.
Then they do something that can have very terrible consequences.
The wise thing to do is to temporarily remain silent, keep yourself in check,
and analyze the situation with a cool head. Ask yourself—

• What is my goal?
• Where do you want to go?
• What is the right path to achieve that goal?
• What would be the smartest decision at this moment?
• Just do this – and you will see that you have succeeded.

Written by – Ashish kumer banik
(This reflection is based on a real-life experience personally witnessed by the author.
Names and certain details have been adapted to protect privacy while preserving the essence of the story)

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I, you—we all carefully preserve our most beloved things,
our deepest affections, for someone or other.
The one we wait to give,
the one we want to hand over all the treasures of our feelings.

After the Creator—
that person is perhaps
our closest,
our most beloved person.
And this selfless longing,
this ultimate plea of ​​the heart—
this is called love.

• Because—
• Love is not just about receiving.
• It is rather a strong desire to give the best of yourself to your loved one.

ভালোবাসার পরম মিনতি

আমি, আপনি—আমরা সবাই
আমাদের সবচেয়ে প্রিয় জিনিসগুলো,
আমাদের সবচেয়ে গভীর ভালোলাগাগুলো
কারও না কারও জন্যই সযত্নে তুলে রাখি।

যাকে দেওয়ার জন্য আমরা অপেক্ষা করি,
যার হাতে তুলে দিতে চাই
আমাদের অনুভূতির সবটুকু সঞ্চয়।

সৃষ্টিকর্তার পর—
সেই মানুষটিই হয়তো
আমাদের সবচেয়ে আপন,
আমাদের ভালোবাসার মানুষ।

আর এই যে নিঃস্বার্থ আকুলতা,
এই যে অন্তরের পরম মিনতি—
এরই নাম ভালোবাসা।

• কারণ—
• ভালোবাসা মানে শুধু পাওয়া নয়।
• বরং নিজের সেরা টুকু -প্রিয়জনের হাতে
• তুলে দেওয়ার তীব্র আকাঙ্ক্ষা।

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Love and kindness — such a great quality,
through which we can achieve many beautiful things in life.
This wonderful quality
is hidden within all of us by birth.
It just needs to be awakened correctly.

• Because—
• A little sincerity, a little compassion, a little love —
• can change a person’s life.

• So—
• if you want to make life more beautiful and meaningful —
• express these beautiful qualities within yourself correctly.

• Because—
• With the touch of compassion, life becomes truly beautiful.

মমতার শক্তি –

আদর ও মমতা — এমন এক মহৎ গুণ,
যার মাধ্যমে আমরা জীবনে অনেক সুন্দর কিছু অর্জন করতে পারি।
এই চমৎকার গুণটি
আমাদের সবার ভেতরেই জন্মসূত্রে লুকিয়ে থাকে।
শুধু প্রয়োজন সঠিকভাবে তাকে জাগিয়ে তোলার।

• কারণ—
• একটু আন্তরিকতা, একটু সহানুভূতি, একটু ভালোবাসা —
• মানুষের জীবনকে বদলে দিতে পারে।

• তাই—
• জীবনকে আরও সুন্দর ও অর্থবহ করে তুলতে চাইলে –
• নিজের ভেতরের এই সুন্দর গুণগুলোর সঠিক প্রকাশ ঘটান।

• কারণ — মমতার স্পর্শেই, জীবন হয়ে ওঠে সত্যিকারের সুন্দর।

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After a discussion between the two, it was decided that
Adrian and Sophie would go to Adrian’s older sister’s house outside the city.
On the day of the trip, Adrian hired a taxi.
Sophie was surprised and said,
— What was the need to get a taxi? I ​​could have gone in a regular cab.
Adrian smiled and said,
— I’m going on a trip with my Sophie—is this a common thing?
Sophie smiled softly. A wonderful charm seemed to spread in her smile.
As the journey towards the destination began, Sophie suddenly broke the silence and sang —
“You called me to invite you for a holiday,
You invited me…”
Sophie didn’t realize when Adrian had put his head on Sophie’s shoulder.
As the song stopped, Adrian said,
— Why did you stop, Sophie? It sounded so good.
— That’s too much of an exaggeration on your part. And it’s become a habit of yours.
— Is it a bad habit?
— I don’t know if it’s bad, but it’s an excess.
— If I don’t overdo it for my Sophie, then who will I do it for?
Sophie laughed again. Suddenly she stopped laughing and said,
— Adrian, you weren’t told. Kaniel wanted to go out with me.
— What did you say?
— I told him no.
Adrian moved his head away from Sophie’s shoulder and said,
— Sophie, Caniel is not a good boy at all.
— I know.
— You could have avoided him in some other way than telling him directly. Besides…
— Besides what?
— If Caniel finds out you went out with me, he’ll be even more upset.
— What do I care if Caniel gets upset?
— Nothing. But…
— But what?
— It’s also important to be careful.
— So I’m going to agree to what he says?
— No, why would that be?
Sophie gently stroked Adrian’s hair and said,
— Leave all this aside. Let’s enjoy the joy of the trip.
Adrian smiled and said,
— Of course. You sing very beautifully. Please sing another song. We’ll reach our destination as soon as we hear the song.
Sophie smiled mischievously and said,
— And you’ll rest your head on my shoulder and relax, right?
They both laughed together.
In the front rear-view mirror, the taxi driver also smiled and joined in their laughter.

To be continued…

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I don’t look for myself and
I look for something else.
My mind doesn’t go with anyone
It only follows you.
I don’t enjoy the words of others
I enjoy your color.

I search for you in this direction
and that direction in a happy voice.
The dew of the morning,
the rays of the morning,
The constellations of the sun.
The illusion of the afternoon,
the evening breeze,
The smile of the moon at dusk.

Whatever else there is –
the treasure of the selfless nature
The mind wants to bring everything,
give it to you with great care,
again and again.

Yet it seems – this is not much,
I hope to give more.
Alas! What kind of addiction is this,
what kind of love is this!
What a disaster this is!

Written by – Ashish kumer banik
(This reflection is based on a real-life experience personally witnessed by the author.
Names and certain details have been adapted to protect privacy while preserving the essence of the story)

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Your feelings tell you whether you are good or bad.
Your inner sadness and anger,
and even your current mental state.
These feelings are expressed through your behavior, your words,
and even your facial expressions.

That is,
whether you want it or not,
your feelings make you known to others.
Therefore,
it is important to stop and think before expressing your feelings.

• Because
• Uncontrolled feelings can sometimes cause harm to you.

• Therefore,
• understand, control,
• and learn to express your feelings correctly.

• Because
• conscious feelings make a person’s personality mature and beautiful.

অনুভূতি প্রকাশের আগে ভাবুন –

আপনার অনুভূতিই বলে দেয় —
আপনি ভালো আছেন, না মন্দ আছেন।
আপনার ভেতরের দুঃখ-ক্ষোভ,
এমনকি আপনার বর্তমান মানসিক অবস্থাও।
আপনার আচরণ, আপনার কথাবার্তা,
এমনকি আপনার মুখের অভিব্যক্তির মধ্য দিয়েও
এই অনুভূতিগুলো প্রকাশ পায়।

অর্থাৎ—
আপনি চাইলে বা না চাইলে,
আপনার অনুভূতিই আপনাকে
অন্যদের কাছে পরিচিত করে তোলে।
তাই—
অনুভূতি প্রকাশের আগে
একবার থেমে ভাবা জরুরি।

কারণ—
অসংযত অনুভূতি
কখনো কখনো আপনার নিজেরই ক্ষতির কারণ হতে পারে।

• অতএব—
• নিজের অনুভূতিকে বুঝুন, নিয়ন্ত্রণ করুন,
• এবং সঠিকভাবে প্রকাশ করতে শিখুন।

• কারণ—
• সচেতন অনুভূতিই,
• মানুষের ব্যক্তিত্বকে করে তোলে পরিণত ও সুন্দর।

Written by – Ashish kumer banik
(This reflection is based on a real-life experience personally witnessed by the author.
Names and certain details have been adapted to protect privacy while preserving the essence of the story)

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On our daily walks, we come across many scenes that not only delight our eyes but also provide food for thought.
Sometimes, a very ordinary incident can teach us a deep lesson in our lives. One such scene left a deep impression on me.
I would like to share that experience with the readers today.

Two women were standing at a roadside stall, drinking water from freshly cut young coconuts.
Many people might think, what’s new in this? Such scenes are seen every day.
But the matter was actually not that ordinary.
Both were elegant and personable. However, the way one of them drank coconut water was completely different.
There was such a uniqueness in her naturalness, confidence and presentation that forced passers-by to look at her without realizing it.
It seemed that she was not acting; rather, her innate personality was being revealed.
On the other hand, the other lady was doing the same thing. But she kept looking around.
Seeing the pedestrians’ gazes focused on the other, she felt a little uncomfortable and embarrassed.
But the woman in the story doesn’t seem to care. She continues to drink coconut water in her own way.
Which, I guess, adds another dimension to the scene.
This scene made me think deeply.
Two people are doing the same thing, both are beautiful and elegant, yet why did one attract everyone’s attention, while the other did not?
While searching for the answer, I realized that there was no special external reason behind it. The only difference was in individuality, confidence, and self-expression.

The same is true in our lives. Many of us do the same kind of work every day.
We work in the same profession, trying to achieve the same goal. But not everyone gets the same results. Because, in every work,
there is an opportunity to express our individuality, sincerity, and personality.
Those who can utilize that opportunity are able to make even ordinary work extraordinary.

• People do not only remember the work;
• Remembers the way of doing the work, sense of responsibility, sincerity and expression of personality.
• Therefore, no matter what work we do, we try to leave an impression of our individuality, s
• incerity and beautiful expression in that work.
• Because, these qualities are what make a person different from a crowd of ten.

• My words:
• It is easy to work like ten, but it is not easy to become one out of ten.
• That path is created by your own individuality, confidence, sincerity and love for work.
• So do not imitate others, try to be the best version of yourself. Only then can you also be one out of ten.

Written by – Ashish kumer banik
(This reflection is based on a real-life experience personally witnessed by the author.
Names and certain details have been adapted to protect privacy while preserving the essence of the story)

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People are known for their good or bad qualities through their actions, character and behavior. We consider people who harm other people or put them in danger as bad people. On the other hand, we consider people who benefit society and people as good people and respect them.
Generally, there are three types of mental tendencies or attitudes working in every person—Positive Attitude, Negative Attitude and Right Attitude.
People who we consider to be people with bad nature generally tend to practice Negative Attitude. They look for the negative side of any situation first instead of the positive side. Instead of evaluating the good side of people, they look for weaknesses or flaws and when they get the opportunity, they try to put others in danger by using that weakness as a weapon.

Their nature is much like a poisonous snake. Just as a poisonous snake is ready to strike at its prey and seize the opportunity, such people also wait for the opportunity.
And if they cannot strike directly, they try to harm or mentally weaken their opponent in various ways.
This is why people avoid poisonous snakes and also want to stay away from the company of bad-natured people.
If for some reason they get involved with them, then the common man tries to get free from the situation by making concessions on his part to manage the situation.
It is unfortunate but true, people with bad natures often consider this generosity or tolerance of others as their victory.
In this, they start thinking of themselves as more powerful or influential. But they do not understand that because of this negative mentality and behavior,
difficult and undesirable consequences await them one day.
Even if with a gap in time, that result returns one day.

My point
Human life is never always smooth. Reality sometimes becomes so difficult that it becomes difficult to live a simple life.
When people get involved in complex situations, that is when their true wisdom is tested.
Those who practice Right Attitude find a way to solve the problem by taking the right decision at the right time.
Sometimes they have to pay a heavy price for that, but in the end they find the right path.
On the other hand, those who are accustomed to practicing Negative Attitude, gradually move towards degradation due to their narrow and negative thinking.
Maybe that consequence is not immediately visible, but over time it becomes inevitable one day.

• Therefore, it is not always possible to lead life with only Positive Attitude, and a life dependent on Negative Attitude is another name for failure.
• Therefore, we should practice Right Attitude—taking the right decision at the right time, taking the right steps and leading life through righteous actions.

• Let us all strive to practice Right Attitude and keep ourselves away from contact with bad-natured people.

Written by – Ashish kumer banik
(This reflection is based on a real-life experience personally witnessed by the author.
Names and certain details have been adapted to protect privacy while preserving the essence of the story)

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Sophie thought to herself that Adrian might be waiting for her on the road. But she couldn’t see Adrian anywhere along the way. Her chest burned with anger.
When she returned home, she closed the door of her room and cried for a long time. When the maid came to call her for dinner, she also spoke to her angrily.
As she watched, the setting sun of the afternoon spread the color of the azure in the western sky and disappeared beyond the horizon.

Sophie loved standing on the balcony every afternoon to look at the sky. The vast blue sky, the floating clouds and the play of colors gave her a strange peace. Sometimes, while looking at the sky, she also remembered Adrian. For some reason, an unknown emptiness arose deep in her heart.
But today, she didn’t come to the balcony this afternoon.
After dusk, she slowly came to the balcony with her hair open. The newly risen moon was spreading a gentle light through the dark sky. Sophie stared at the moon in fascination. Suddenly, a long, stifled breath escaped from her chest.
Just then, someone called out softly—
— “Sophie…”
She was startled and looked back.
Adrian was standing.
— You!
— Yes, me.
— When did you come?
— A little while ago
— Then why didn’t you tell me?
Adrian smiled softly,
— I was watching you.
— Why?
— The silence of the evening and you seemed so beautiful together. But tell me, why are you so sad today?

Sophie gently stroked her open hair and said,
— I thought you would stand on the path and wait for me.
Adrian smiled and said,
— Would that really be good?
Sophie was silent for a moment and said,
— Why?
— If anyone had seen me standing there, especially Keniel, he would have had more of a chance.
Sophie seemed to be suddenly startled.
After thinking for a while, she said slowly,
— Really! I didn’t think like that. How did you figure it out so quickly?
She paused and said again,
— Your thoughts are really deep. Maybe mine aren’t. But you know, I was very angry with you.
Suddenly, she put her hand to her eyes and said,
— Oh, Adrian… I feel like there’s something in my eyes. Please, take a look.

Adrian slowly came forward.
The two were now facing each other.
He gently opened Sophie’s eyelids and blew softly,
— Maybe a small insect or a speck of dust. Now open your eyes slowly.
Sophie slowly opened her eyes.
Adrian felt the gentle scent of Sophie’s wet hair from very close. At the touch of his warm breath, Sophie’s open hair swayed in the light breeze.

To be continued…

Written by – Ashish kumer banik
(This reflection is based on a real-life experience personally witnessed by the author.
Names and certain details have been adapted to protect privacy while preserving the essence of the story)

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Wherever you are, whatever your position, enrich yourself with ambition and set a right goal for life. Because, the true identity of a person is not in his position, but in his thoughts, ideals and sense of purpose.
Let me give a simple example –

The Chatak bird lives on the ground, but its gaze is always upward. It eagerly waits in anticipation of the pure rain from the sky. Finally, it quenches its thirst by drinking the water of that holy rain.

On the other hand, even though the eagle flies very high in the sky, its gaze is always downward. Its greedy eyes are focused on prey roaming the land.

The same picture is seen in human life. There are many people in society who grow up in very ordinary environments, but reach extraordinary heights through noble thoughts, honest character, hard work and charitable deeds. Again, there are many people who are born in affluent families, grow up with advanced facilities; but due to narrow thinking, low mentality and dishonest actions, they lose their own dignity. As a result, even a promising life becomes polluted and meaningless.

• Therefore, our identity is not our position, but our goal. If the vision is pure, if the thoughts are noble and if the actions are dedicated to the welfare of humanity, then success will definitely come to us one day.

• Let us all develop ourselves on the path of truth, beauty and goodness. Make life worthwhile, beautiful and meaningful through high goals, pure minds and honest actions.

Written by – Ashish kumer banik
(This reflection is based on a real-life experience personally witnessed by the author.
Names and certain details have been adapted to protect privacy while preserving the essence of the story)

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